For grandparents Providing childcare My daughter assumes I will look after the baby when she goes back to work. Is that fair? It is fair to ask, but not to take this for granted. Parents should respect your life and your freedom to choose. Not all grandparents want to be involved in providing childcare, and it is for you to let them know if that’s how you feel. If you do choose to look after your grandchildren, it’s important to get the ground rules clear at the start and to make your voice heard before any childcare arrangement begins, otherwise you may feel resentful and they may have come to rely on you. The parents may not have thought about it from your perspective or they may still think of you as you were ten years ago, not now. Open and honest conversations are really important - make sure you share any concerns you have from the outset, so that everyone knows where you stand.